Books on Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence

Emotional Intelligence

Daniel Goleman

Updated foundational book written by the founder of EQ. ” The single most important element to group intelligence is not average IQ but social harmony (EQ) to enable talents to be optimised”

Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves

Practical book including an EQ assessment to help monitor your personal growth. It also provides loads of practical ways to develop key EQ competencies around self-awareness, self-regulation, social awareness and relationship management.


Daniel H. Pink

Useful guide to tap into intrinsic motivation “wealth maximisation lacks the power to fully mobilise human energies.


Richard H Thaler & Cass R Sunstein

Tips and tricks for creating better habits and behaviours using insights from neuroscience.

The Compassionate Mind

Paul Gilbert

Develop compassion as a habit; could it be the antidote to anxiety, disconnection and conflict?

Whole-Hearted Parenting

Joshua Freedman

Useful guide for parents to connect with, support and enjoy their children more effectively.

Conversational Intelligence

Judith Glasser

Book with useful tools for having more productive and collaborative interactions based on trust.

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Living Nonviolent Communication

Marshall Rosenberg, PHD

Whilst this book is not about emotional intelligence by name, it is by nature. Anger can be an extremely destructive emotion prompting us to focus on what is blocking us getting our needs met rather working on the actions that will get them met. This book enables you to work with anger so that everyone’s needs are met – a great book for parents, leaders and coaches to work intelligently with anger. 

Permission to Feel Marc Brackett

Permission to Feel

Marc Brackett, Ph.D.

This book is borne from Marc Brackett’s personal experience of what happens when emotions are not validated and how he changed his life when his uncle gave him ‘permission to feel’. It includes a practical and simple model, ‘RULER’, for working with and regulating emotions so you can suffer less and achieve more. 

Books on Habits

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Stephen Covey

Great guide to establish habits that are modelled on the most successful people. Useful techniques and frameworks with lots of examples, both business and personal making them easily accessible.

Small Move Big Change

Caroline L. Arnold

Tips and tricks for creating habits for success. Focus on one habit at a time, decide on what you can commit to & take action consistently. When the habit has been established then you can build on it.

Power of Habit

Charles Duhigg

Practical book for understanding how habits work and how to break bad habits & create habits that lead to success.

Create Tiny Habits for Big Impact Results

Tiny Habits

BJ Fogg PhD

A must read. This book breaks down human behaviour into a simple model and easy to follow process. Build habits that give you the life you want, achieve the results your desire and unpick those unhelpful habits that are sabotaging your success. 

In Praise of Wasting Time

Alan Lightman

Interesting book promoting the benefits of doing nothing. Let go of the belief that being busy is productive and notice how your creativity and wellbeing improves when you switch off.

Atomic Habits

James Clear

Another fabulous book providing some great tips and techniques for creating habits that will serve you well for living your best life and performing optimally. Lots of simple techniques to create good habits and break those bad habits that are sabotaging your success. A key takeaway – work on your identity – it’s amazing how that impacts what you do…

Books on Self-Awareness

The Power of Now

Ekhart Tolle

An opportunity to shift how you think and experience life. We are not our thoughts, we can observe and control them rather than letting them control us.

You are More than you Think

Andrew Jenkins

Interesting book for reconnecting with your authentic self.

Beyond the Self

Matthieu Ricard and Wolf Singer

Deep thinking book exploring how science is beginning to explain why Buddhist practises are so powerful.

The Shift

Wayne Dyer

Easy read about the shift from a life of achievement to a life of meaning based on real life stories 

Man's Search for Meaning

Viktor E Frankl

Source of inspiration for overcoming mental health disorders through finding meaning in life. Based on wisdom of Holocaust survivor & psychiatrist Viktor Frankl.

Somebody Should Have Told Us​

Jack Pransky

Great book to help experience life from inside out rather than outside in inspired by real stories – overcome unhelpful thinking patterns

Awakened Empath

Aletheia Luna & Mateo Sol

Useful book for empaths who want to learn how to harness their gift and lessen the influence of people who drain their energy.

Good vibes, Good Life

Vex King

Easy read full of ideas on how to take control, be more positive and manage toxic energy so you can enjoy your journey and be your best.

The Presence Process

Michael Brown

A powerful self-help book for anyone that feels that past emotional experiences, traumas or patterns are having an impact on their current life. The book requires a level of commitment and provides a guided 10 week process that facilitates the integration of emotions and experiences that   may not have been processed effectively when they initially arose. Suppressed emotions can manifest in physical symptoms and releasing them at source can be life-changing. 

The Surrender Experiment

Michael A Singer

An autobiographical account of how this author let go of his own ego and personal resistance to allow his life to unfold in a more natural way. Whilst at times, this story may seem farfetched, there is always a sense of realism when he talks about the ‘self’ and ‘inner voice’ that has a habit of getting in the way. This book inspires you to become an observer of yourself and let go of your inner voice so you can make progress beyond any self-imposed, and often unconscious, limitations.     

Eat Pray Love

Elizabeth Gilbert

An extremely moving autobiography of a woman’s personal journey from heartbreak to recovery. She takes a physical journey through Italy, India and Bali to discover herself, integrate her painful emotions and transform into someone more able to accept life at it is and embrace new experiences without fear of future outcomes. Inspiration to let go of judgement and live life in the present moment.  

Ryan Holiday Ego is the enemy

Ego Is The Enemy

Ryan Holiday

A hard-hitting message runs through this book constantly reminding you to stop allowing emotions linked to ‘ego’ to influence your decisions and actions. It invites you to rise above ‘yourself’ and connect with the higher purpose. When you do this you achieve peace and fulfilment. Let go of the outcome and commit to being your best, true to your values and enjoy true success.

Books on Mindfulness

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Mindfulness - a practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world

Mark Williams & Dr Danny Penman

Comprehensive and practical book for understanding and developing a practise of mindfulness

Altered Traits

Daniel Goleman & Richard Davidson

Powerful book detailing benefits of meditation in all its forms – could this be a way to accelerate the evolution of our brains to cope in today’s fast paced world?

Books on Emotions

The Power of Negative Emotions

Todd Kashdan & Robert Biswas-Diener

All emotions have a purpose providing wisdom and energy. Don’t let negative emotions control you – use them to support your success and fulfilment.

Feel the fear and do it anyway Susan Jeffers

Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway

Susan Jeffers

Great book for reframing fear & anxiety; overcome procrastination, paralysis and fear-based thinking patterns to enjoy the journey and achieve success.

How Emotions Are Made

Lisa Feldman Barrett

Fascinating take on emotions: We are architects of our experience, not at mercy of emotions. Emotions provide meaning, prescribe action and regulate body budget of energy resources.

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

The nirvana of emotional states when the balance between challenge & skill engages attention and provides a sense of enjoyment.

Mindset: Changing The Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential

Dr Carol Dweck

Great book for understanding how your mindset could be impacting your success and development with tips for shifting from a fixed to growth mindset.

Emotional Agility

Susan David

Key tips for emotional agility; show up, unhook from unhelpful patterns and move forward being the person you want to be.

Reasons To Stay Alive

Matt Haig

Personal story to inspire those gripped by anxiety or depression; you are not alone and you can move forward.

Finely Tuned

Barrie Davenport

Lighter book to support people who have a highly sensitive or empath trait: use your gift and overcome its challenges.

Handbook for Highly sensitive people

The Handbook for Highly Sensitive People

Mel Collins

Practical tips & techniques for people with a HSP or empath trait to feel more empowered and less challenged.

The power of regret

The Power of Regret

Daniel H. Pink

Nobody wants to live a life full of regrets, but what if you could use that unpleasant feeling to live better? This book shows you how, as well as giving some great tips about which type of regret has the most impact on us so we can make more informed decisions that are less likely to end in feelings of regret.

Books on Behaviour

Games People Play

Eric Berne

Useful book for raising awareness of the roles we play in our relationships and how that impacts our outcomes. If you want a different outcome show up differently.

Books on Neuroscience

Neuroscience for Coaches

Amy Brann

Easy to understand book giving insights f how our brains work to support behavioural change and increase power of coaching.

Thinking, Fast and Slow

Daniel Kahneman

Fascinating read explaining human behaviour and how why we make the decisions we do. In essence, it depends on which’ self’ is making the decision!

The Moral Molecule: How Trust Works

Paul J Zak

Oxytocin: the neurochemical that drives connection and trust. Learn how to harness it as a power for good.

The Brain: The Story of You

David Eagleman

Easy to read whistle stop introduction to the human brain.

The Brain That Changes Itself

Norman Doidge

Inspiring book with great examples of neuroplasticity in action. If you believe statements such as ‘you are what you are’ or ‘you can’t teach an old dog new tricks’ or ‘if the part of the brain that controls XYZ is missing or damaged then it’s not possible to do XYZ’ then is a great book to inspire hope and belief that with commitment and engagement anything is possible. Our brains are not fixed – they can be adapted and developed.   

Book on dopamine

The Molecule of More

Daniel Z Lieberman, MD and Michael E Long

Fascinating book about how dopamine drives certain human behaviours. Previously thought of as the ‘pleasure molecule’ dopamine’s purpose has been revised to being the driver to achieve better futures through having more, achievements or innovations. In a ‘World of Plenty’ the existence of this molecule could be destroying our ability to enjoy what we have   – establishing a balance between better futures and enjoying the present is key to happiness and fulfilment.

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Make Your Brain Work

Amy Brann

Useful book by Amy Brann, an applied neuroscientist (who I had the pleasure of completing a Neuroscience for Coaches programme with). Lots of real life scenarios of how our brains respond to challenges. Understanding the science of how our brains work and how to use them more consciously we can unlock our true potential.  

Habits of a Happy Brain

Habits Of A Happy Brain

Loretta Graziano Breuning, PHD

We are born with a complex ‘piece of kit’ – our mind & body – with no instruction manual on how it works. This book provides valuable insights into the neurochemicals that make us feel happy or unhappy and ways to build habits that will generate more of those happy chemicals without undesirable side effects. Easy to read and apply to real life situations.

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Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

Dr Joe Dispenza

Another incredibly interesting book introducing quantum theory and how it applies to our experience of life. Understanding how to influence our thoughts, feelings and actions instead of living life on autopilot is essential. Don’t allow life to happen TO you. Instead, master your mind and live the you desire.

How your mindset can transform your life

The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Transform Your Life

David Robson

If this doesn’t get you to check your beliefs and thinking patterns then nothing will! So much incredible research, evidence and stories demonstrating how our own mind has an enormous impact on our outcomes. Check your inner talk, beliefs and patterns – are they helping or hindering?  

Stop thinking start living recommended book

Stop Thinking Start Living

Richard Carlson

“Your thoughts aren’t real, they are images in your mind” – so when you get get caught up ruminating about the past or worrying about what ‘might’ happen in the future YOU are creating your suffering – wow! You owe it to yourself to be happy, so learn how to create thinking habits that lead to that. This book has some great stories, ideas and tips for motivation.

Books on Time Management

The 12 Week Year

Brian P. Moran & Michael Lennington


“Greatness is achieved when you choose to take the right actions”. This book adapts well-used business techniques to how we are all naturally motivated to perform and works on the principle that however great your ideas are, it is the actions that you take that yield results.

Eat That Frog!

Brian Tracy

Great short read for improving productivity and attending to those really important tasks. Inspiring techniques to overcome procrastination. Follow the rules: If you have 2 frogs, eat the ugliest one first; If you have to eat a live frog, it doesn’t pay to look at it for very long!

Four Thousand Weeks Oliver Burkeman

Four Thousand Weeks

Oliver Burkeman

This book challenges you to think differently about time management. Instead of developing time-saving skills or buying gadgets to do more with less time, change your relationship with time, and what you actually need, to feel good about life. Put life into perspective and be more conscious of how you CHOOSE to invest your time. 

Books on Health & Wellbeing

Super Genes

Dr Deepak Chopra & Rudolph E. Tanzi

Fascinating book about how genes impact our health and wellbeing. Only 5% of disease is related to gene mutations leaving 95% open to change with the right actions.

Wood Becomes Water

Gail Reichstein

Introduction to chinese medicine and how to apply it to everyday experiences. Learn about how the five elements interact and how to restore balance.

Power of When

Dr. Michael Breus

Identify your chronotype and live more in time with it with less stress and tiredness and better results.

Your Power to Heal

Henry Grayson

In depth book for exploring the bodymind connection in relation to physical symptoms; ease the symptom and treat and cause.

Your Body Speaks Your Mind

Debbie Shapiro

Comprehensive guide for exploring how physical symptoms in our bodies could provide insights into our minds.

Heal your body

Heal Your Body

Louise Hay

Book of affirmations for treating symptoms with an emotional cause; what message could your body be providing in its physical symptoms?

Words That Touch

Nick Pole

 A book designed to support ‘body’ practitioners to use clean language to uncover what could be ‘driving’ physical symptoms so they can treat the root cause and promote self healing. I have used the methodology to explore physical symptoms as an additional source of insight for coaching sessions, that exists beyond the conscious mind. 

Cured Stories of Spontaneous Healing


Dr Jeff Rediger

“To reach new depths of recovery we have to heal our diets, our immune system, our stress response and our identities”  This book provides some inspiring examples of people who, by working on themselves and choosing to live their best, most authentic and fulfilling lives, have experienced spontaneous healing. They committed to permanent life changes and combined the power of mind & body to heal themselves.

The Brain Grain Whole Life Plan

David Perlmutter MD

The more that is understood about our minds and bodies, the more we can influence our physical and mental health. Indeed, evidence suggests that our brain health, being our mental wellbeing as well as the absence of neurological disorders, is linked to our gut health, and in turn, to what we eat. Past beliefs are turned on their head, and the latest recommendations are discussed giving you a roadmap to achieve optimal health. This is a way of life, not just a diet.  

Books on Business & Schools

Start With Why

Simon Sinek

Fantastic book for anyone who wants to tap into the energy that will drive action in their personal or professional lives. Aligning activities with the ‘why’ enables people to connect at an emotional level – emotions drive behaviours. Businesses with a well-defined and aligned why perform better and have more fulfilled and engaged people.  

Talk Like Ted

Carmine Gallo

Practical book for developing expertise and skills in public speaking and presenting. Based on insights from neuroscience the book provides tips and tricks for engaging your audience so that you perform at your best and they are able to access the information and expertise that you offer. Learn how stories, length and format influence the impact you have.

The Prosperous Coach

Steve Chandler & Rich Litvin

Inspiring book for coaches who are struggling to build a sustainable coaching business and charge rates that reflect the true value of their services to clients. If you don’t value what you offer what message does that give your clients?

Trust Factor

Paul J. Zak

Ways to optimise performance through harnessing trust using insights from neuroscience.


Gino Wickman

A simple but powerful methodology to run a business using the entrepreneurs operating system.

Leadership Matters

Andy Buck

Practical book with lots of useful models to help leaders in schools to make a difference. A clear vision and understanding of your context is key.

Running Lean

Ash Maurya

Guide for creating simple one page business plans based on the ‘Fail Fast’ strategies used by tech start up businesses. Business plans need to be dynamic business tools that can be reflected on and adapted easily for efficient and effective business growth.

A school built on love

Parklands A School Built on Love

Chris Dyson

If you want some inspiration on how to do more with less in the education sector, then this is the book to read. Building a school from a place of love, a cornerstone emotion for psychological safety, has enabled students in the most challenging circumstances to thrive. This school also shows how we perform at our best when we are having fun. 

Books on Sport Performance


Matthew Syed

Go to book for anyone working with sports teams. Great tips for mastering your mind for optimal performance.

The Greatest: What Sport Teaches Us About Achieving Success

Matthew Syed

Sequel to Bounce using insights from the greatest sportspeople to provide mental strategies to become the best we can be.


James Kerr

Easy to read, understand and relate to the 15 lessons in leadership demonstrated by the All Blacks. Leadership, success and high performance are significantly influenced by character and culture. Don’t underestimate how important these are as part of your strategy for recruitment, appraisals & training. 

Books for Kids

Diary of a Brilliant Kid

Andy Cope & Gavin Oattes

Great tips for being your best. Written for kids but great for adults too.

Blame My Brain

Nicola Morgan

Great introduction to the teenage brain and its impact on behaviour.

Queen Bees & Wannabees

Rosalind Wiseman

This book inspired the movie “Mean Girls’ and provides insights and techniques to help parents navigate the world of adolescence and the dynamics of girls’ friendships. Interesting ideas  for managing the use of technology too.

Teenage brain

Inventing Ourselves

Sarah-Jayne Blakemore

Working with, or parenting teenagers can be challenging as the physical body appears adult-like and yet the brain is still a work in progress resulting in behaviours that don’t always ‘fit’ with what society demands or what we might expect based on our own brain function.  Use this book to understand and support instead of criticise and control – this is a period of enormous opportunity.